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Our inner thermostat setting

Uncategorized Jul 16, 2020

“Each of us has an inner thermostat setting that determines how much love, success, and creativity we allow ourselves to enjoy.

When we exceed our inner thermostat setting, we will often do something to sabotage ourselves, causing us to drop back into the old, familiar zone where we feel secure. Unfortunately."
Gay Hendricks

When I think of growth, I think of one of my favorite books; The Big Leap from Gay Hendricks.

It really touched me when I read it because he talks about this principle 'The Upper Limit Problem' - which he talks about in the quote above.

I see this exact thing happening when I work with clients (and in my own life!!!): we can only hold a certain amount of happiness and success.

When the threshold is reached any or all of these things kick in:

  • A sudden rush or wave of self-doubt.
  • Thinking that is was crazy to want new, more or different, and wanting to go back to the old.
  • Allowing some weird-ass self-sabotage behavior that keeps the good stuff from coming in.

Do you recognize any of this?

Here's what you can do when you realize you're disallowing the new level of success, love, or creativity to come through:

  • Pause. Take a breath.
  • Ask yourself: what good wants to go through?
  • Feel all the feelings and allow your heart to open
  • Receive.

Any fears that come up;

What would others think?

Who am I to deserve this?

What if I lose this goodness?

... ask yourself if it is worth not experiencing the good to be risk-free.

And besides that... how real are your fears???

If you could allow in more success, love, and creativity right now... what would you do? And how would you feel?