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How to stop overthinking everything

Uncategorized Feb 05, 2018

Do you recognize this?
You feel like you're stuck in a loop of ongoing thoughts and you can't get out of your head.

Your mind is busy with never-ending chatter. In fact, it’s everywhere, but not in the present.

Once in a while, you break free, but most of the time your thoughts worries keep you from getting into the here and now.

Ok. I hear you.

You suffer from overthinking...
The good news is, I know how you feel. I have been there.
(And after a long day behind the computer I can still feel like that!)
I would overthink everything, have discussions with myself in my head (sometimes I even think I have a whole board of directors up there all wanting to be right).

The good news?
I have found ways out of it.
I now can catch myself when I am overthinking, and get back to be a complete person.
Instead of just a walking head.
And if I can do it, you most certainly can too.
The truth is, I think almost everyone I know overthinks things.

It is totally fixable
Today I will tell you how to connect your body to your brain and to feel comfortable in your skin, full of energy.
Think you are a hopeless case? I've got you covered. Keep reading.

First things first, let's look at your brain (with compassion)!

WHY are you overthinking?
1. Your brain wants to keep you safe
You overthink the next steps you are going to take because you want to be safe.

"If I follow my heart and go to Honolulu, I might get some horrible tropical flu."

"I really want to quit my job (i hate it!) but I can't because the economy is bad and I won't find anything else."

Your brain just wants to protect you from having anything happen to you. Which is a good thing... but 99% of the time your brain is a bit like a hyper overprotective mum.

And so you end up doing nothing but sitting there thinking about what you could do (and losing time!)

2. Your brain is afraid of failure
Your thinking mind will present you with all kind of things that could go wrong.

"I would start my own business, but if nobody buys my products or services, I am embarrassed and will have to go back to my job,"

"Should I get into yoga or would I look silly because I am so stiff?"

3. Your brain wants you to take the absolute right decision
You are so aware that time is passing and that you can’t go back in time, that you always want to make the only right decision.

Therefore you don’t take one more step because you have overthought every possibility you have. Which will get you .. nowhere.

4. Your brain wants to control what other people think about you
Sometimes your thoughts come from ‘other people’. You might have this room full of friends, colleagues, and family that are giving you advice, in your head.

What would my best friend think if I would buy this pair of shoes, what would my husband think if I would quit my job, .. etc.

An impossible overthinking mode, because everyone is going to have an opinion anyway. You can’t control it, and in the end it doesn’t matter.

You have to make your own decisions.


TIP 1: Become aware
Put your ‘overthinking awareness’ on for a week or so and become aware.

Do you recognize yourself in one of the situations above?

Do you have impulses to take action but end up thinking about it instead of doing it?

TIP 2:  Move!
This is, of course, a great way to Get out of your head: Get into your body. Move, run, do yoga, go swimming, walk the dog, dance to your favorite music. Moving will get you out of your head, for sure.

And when you revisit the problem or issue later, you might see an easy solution in no time.

Warning: You can also move and still be in your head. I see it in the gym all the time. When working out, go into your body, feel what you are doing.

TIP 3: Meditate
When you sit still and just are with your thoughts, you can distance yourself from them. It is not needed to have an ‘empty mind’ to be able to meditate. The practice is to become the observer. So the thoughts are still there, but you are now the one observing them, instead of being actively engaged.

Therefore, it is you that is in charge. And not the chatter in your mind.
The next time you are going around and around in your head before you take a decision, you will just ssssshhh the thoughts. And you get moving and simply take action on the initial topic.

TIP 4: Take action!
Taking action is the goal here, and the ultimate cure against overthinking. My mentor Marie Forleo says this really well: Clarity comes from engagement, not thought!

Tell your brain you will never know what will go wrong, or what will go right, until you actually go on the holiday, quit the job, make the proposal or eat the pizza.